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Well, you know what they say about best laid plans…

So, remember my post about weekend studies? Well, Nico got through only math. He forgot that I told him about vocabulary and science. In the car ride home from the market, he began to stress out. He started to raise his voice at us and shake his hands in the air. I knew that this situation could go two ways. If I start stressing and yelling back, well all hell will break loose. We might have full on blow-up or a rational discussion. I have realized over my many years of dealing with my son that calmer is definitely better. I have also learned that my son absorbs my stress like a sponge. In order for this not to happen, I needed to relax and realize he has today to finish the other two assignments. Furthermore, I looked at it as a goal, he met the goal at 66%. For my son, 66% without fighting and screaming is meeting the goal. He is working right now on science.
One thing I have to remember, as his parent, is to take one moment at a time and not project my stress and frustration on to him.

"Mom, how do you preheat the oven?"

My husband and I were out to dinner tonight.  Our son was very sleepy, most likely from the medication.  He decided to stay home and sleep instead of go out with us.  During dinner, my phone rang.  It was our son.  He wanted to know how to preheat the oven.  He said he was hungry and he wanted to make a frozen pizza.

Why is this a big deal?  This is a huge step for him.  First of all, he didn’t wait for me to cook for him or bring home take out.  Sometimes, he would just eat cereal ,fruit or not eat at all.   But this time, he actually looked in the freezer and chose a frozen pizza.  He took it out of the box and threw the plastic shrink wrap away.
He placed the pizza on a cookie sheet and baked it.  I have been cooking with him in the kitchen lately.  He must have been paying attention these past few weeks when I showed him how to work the oven.  I explained which buttons to press.  I even explained the “cook time” feature so the oven will shut off automatically after the cook time is finished. 
This is a shocking and amazing event!  There is hope that one day he will completely independent and live a happy fulfilling life.