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Aspie teen’s weekend homework and studies

Well, it is one of those weekends where Nico has several assignments. So, how do we handle this without a huge meltdown from our beloved son?

Over the last month, we finally figured how to get our son to study on the weekend. First thing in the morning,
we give him down time. After an hour, we talk to him about the assignments he has due for Monday. We ask him,”What time do you want to start?”. Usually, it is a reasonable time.
This way he does what he needs to do for school, but he has some control. This helps him to feel empowered.
Now, don’t get me wrong, this is new and works for right now. Sometimes there are blow-ups, which can be deflated without over-reacting.
Currently, our son may try to negotiate more time, but he is receptive to starting his work. I do have to frequently monitor that he is not on YouTube or reading Japanese manga on the Internet. It is never perfect.

What works for you?

First day on the Treadmill

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Lately, Nico has been telling us that he needs to get in shape.  We tell him what a great idea this is to release stress.  We remind him we have a gym in the building and now he is old enough to use it.  We offer to teach him how to use the equipment, but he never wanted to really take us up on it.  So, in order not to push, we dropped the conversation. 

Well the other day, Nico brought the workout subject up again.  I asked what days he thought he would like to schedule these workouts.  He said mom, “Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays?”  I ask why these days.  He said, “I don’t have my tutor.” 
Well yesterday after school, Nico hit the gym and ran on the treadmill. 
I am so proud of him.  This was all his doing.  YAY NICO!!!!

Have these people heard of "LEAST RESTRICTIVE ENVIRONMENT"?

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The other day I had a forty-five minute conversation about my son going to high school.  The current middle school he is at wants to place my son in SDC (Which would be far away from his neighborhood school). This is fine for some children but my child is accessing the curriculum and tests at advanced and proficient.  Furthermore, my son’s grades are A’s and B’s.

So, why do they want to send him to SDC?  The teacher of record is worried that my son’s off topic comments, nervous ticks, and occasional blurts will appear rude and the high school teachers will become upset.  Really???  Then, maybe these teachers need some training in compassion and understanding.  
Each day, I get some email about my son’s day.  For the most part, my son has great days.  Every now and then, I receive an email that says the teacher was upset because my son shouted our in class. While I appreciate the feedback, I expect this person to return to these teachers and say, “He has Asperger’s!  This is part of his disability.”  This seems to be where the school system differs from what the parents expect the teacher of record (person who is in charge of the child and the IEP while in that school) expect.  My middle school experience for my son has shown that these teachers tend to be weak and ineffective.   These teachers only care about making waves.  They are more concerned with the feelings of the teacher than the needs of the student.

My First Blog as a Mom of Aspie Teen

Well, this is my first blog ever!!!!!!!!  Let me begin by introducing myself.  I am a normal everyday working mom.  I am a 2nd grade teacher. 

I am married to my husband for 20 years.  We have an amazingly intelligent fourteen-year-old son, named Nico.  He has Asperger’s and major Anxiety issues.   My son was diagnosed in 3rd grade.  Currently, he is in 8th grade. Our public school experience has been dicey to say the least.  I am sure the other parents with special needs children are able to relate to my frustration.  


I don’t want to go all the way back in time and discuss all my issues with public schools and the lack of compassion by most general education teachers.  I want this blog to mainly discuss issues with teenagers with Asperger’s.  I want this blog to be a way of putting together a community of parents who need to be heard and who need to share their experiences.